Episode 110 -- Starting in the Deep End

2-Minute Tip: Build a Team

 

Sometimes to get better, you may need help, and that's okay.

• Hire a coach.
• Join Toastmasters.
• Ask a friend or colleague. Take an online course.
• Take a traditional course.
• Read a book.
• Subscribe to a podcast about public speaking

 

Or do all of the above. Or some combination of them.

 

The point is you can build expertise, or at the very least, competence in a skill by assembling your own team of experts. They can be in person or virtual. It can be a dialog or a 1-way process.

 

But you don't have to do it all alone. There's a community there you can build or be a part of.

 

Post Tip Discussion: Meet Sandy Weiner

 

I think the best way to sum up Sandy Weiner's approach to speaking (and probably a lot of other things) is "Just jump in and do it -- but don't do it alone."

 

Sandy's first major talk was her TedX talk, which you can see here:

 

[embed]https://youtu.be/yvzUMIcrBYU[/embed]

 

 

While she may go straight for the deep end, she's successful because she prepares -- she works with coaches when she has a weakness and does the work she needs to do to be successful.

 

I talk a lot about how 90% of the success of a talk is determined before you ever get on stage -- it's in the  message, in the prep, and in the rehearsal. And that's how Sandy has succeeded as a speaker.

 

Bio

 

Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date, is devoted to helping women over 40 achieve healthy, toe-curling love. An internationally known TEDx speaker, dating coach, author, and podcast host, Sandy specializes in helping women communicate effectively, set clear boundaries in relationships, and know their true worth. She believes a woman of value attracts her best partner.  

 

Sandy’s work has been published in Mind Body Green, The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and The Good Men Project.

 

She's also the host of Last First Date Radio, an acclaimed show about attracting and sustaining healthy relationships in midlife. Sandy wants you to go on YOUR LAST FIRST DATE!

 

Superman Pose

 

Sandy mentioned the Superman pose in our conversation, and we talked a little about Amy Cuddy's Ted Talk about power poses.  Here's the video of that talk.

 

[embed]https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?language=en[/embed]

 

Links

 

Sandy's Website	http://LastFirstDate.com
Women of Value	http://TheWomanOfValue.com
Sandy's Tedx Talk	https://youtu.be/yvzUMIcrBYU
Sandy on Twitter	https://twitter.com/lastfirstdate1
Sandy on Facebook	https://www.facebook.com/lastfirstdate
Sandy on YouTube	https://www.youtube.com/user/LastFirstDate
Sandy on Instagram	https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate/
Toastmasters	https://www.toastmasters.org/
Sandy's Podcast	https://lastfirstdate.com/lastfirstdate-radio/
Story Brand Podcast	https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/building-storybrand-donald-miller-clarify-your-message/id1092751338
Amy Cuddy's Ted Talk	https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?language=en

 

Call to Action

 

• Be sure to check Sandy's websites, podcast, and social media profiles. You can find all those links above.
• Subscribe for free to 2-Minute Talk Tips in your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode, and then subscribe to Last First Date Radio in the same place.
• Don't get best…get better.

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